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How to Prevent a Breakup from Affecting Your Kids

Navigating a breakup is a tricky one, especially when you have kids—handle it wrong, and disaster will follow. So,  when kids are involved, it’s not just about picking up the pieces of your own life; it’s about making sure they don’t get lost in the mess. That being the case, here’s how to keep the ship steady and how to prevent a breakup from affecting your kids.

How to Prevent a Breakup from Affecting Your Kids

How to Prevent a Breakup from Affecting Your Kids

#1: Keep the Adult Drama Upstairs

First rule of Breakup Club? Don’t let the kids overhear you bickering about who gets the coffee table. Keep adult conversations and legal discussions out of earshot. You’re co-captains in parenting, even if your romantic sails have been lowered.

#2: Consistency is King

Routine can be a comfort blanket for children, especially during times of change. Try to keep daily routines as regular as pancakes on Sunday morning. School runs, bedtime stories, and even chores should go on as if the script hasn’t changed.

#3: Open Lines of Communication

Be honest with your kids—age-appropriately, of course. They don’t need the gritty details, but a simple explanation can prevent them from filling in the gaps with their imagination. Assure them that both parents love them, rain or shine.

#4: Enlist a Separation Lawyer

Yes, it might seem like summoning a knight in a shining suit, but a separation lawyer can help smooth out potential conflicts before they escalate. They’re like the referees in the game of post-breakup parenting, making sure everyone plays fair for the kids’ sake.

#5: Unified Parenting Front

Show a united front. It’s reassuring for children to see their parents working together, even if it’s just coordinating pick-up times or attending school events together. Think of yourselves as a tag team; when one’s out of the ring, the other’s ready to jump in.

#6: Emotions in Check

It’s okay to show your kids that you’re sad about the breakup—it’s a part of being human. However, turning them into mini therapists is a no-go. Let them see you managing emotions healthily, perhaps through talking to friends, exercising, or yes, indulging in a little comfort food.

#7: New Traditions

While some traditions might need to change, it’s the perfect time to introduce new ones. Maybe it’s pizza and movie night on Fridays or a weekend morning walk. It’s about creating fun, happy memories that can help cement the new family dynamic.

#8: Therapy Can Help

Sometimes, a neutral third party can provide a safe space for kids to express their feelings. Consider engaging a child therapist or counselor, someone who can offer strategies to cope with the changes without taking sides.

#9: Keep Other Relationships Stable

Try to maintain stability with other family members and friends. Having a network of support can be a safety net for your kids, reminding them that some things don’t change, even when it feels like their world has been turned upside down.

A breakup really doesn’t have to have a devastating impact on your kids, providing you keep calm, work together and try not to get caught up in your own feelings too much. Good luck and happy future times to you all.

this is a contributed article

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Shelley Whittaker

Shelley is the Founder of Wander & Luxe. She is an award nominated blogger and has worked in the travel, motherhood and lifestyle space since 2016. Her mission is to inspire family wanderlust by showing her adventures and sharing her knowledge and know how when travelling with kids. All whilst she tries to conquer motherhood and indulge in life’s little luxuries.

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Shelley Whittaker

Shelley is the Founder of Wander & Luxe. She is an award nominated blogger and has worked in the travel, motherhood and lifestyle space since 2016. Her mission is to inspire family wanderlust by showing her adventures and sharing her knowledge and know how when travelling with kids. All whilst she tries to conquer motherhood and indulge in life’s little luxuries.

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