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Why All Mother’s Should Travel Solo At Least Once

Stop the press!  All mother’s should travel solo? How, why, when do you expect this to be able to happen when one has a family to look after?  I’m not going to lie, it could definitely be a very tall order for many of you to pull off such a mean feat.  But I highly recommend calling in all your favors and making it happen – I promise you wont regret it!

Recently I took my first solo trip with BRB Travel since I have become a mother and it was a breath of fresh air.  It was only 2 nights and of course I had mum guilt, but it was just what I needed to recharge my batteries.  And I can’t quite believe the speed at which I could make it through the airport on my own! Do you still need more convincing that this is a good idea? Then grab a cuppa and read my thoughts below on why I think all mother’s should travel solo at least once.

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Singapore Slings at The Raffles Hotel, Singapore

WE ALL NEED A BREAK

First and foremost, motherhood is EXHAUSTING and we all need a break.  Therefore, why not take a solo trip and enjoy some true R&R.  We have all seen those memes joking that mothers never actually go on holidays, they just parent in a different location.  And it is a relatively true sentiment, especially when the children are young and need your constant attention.  A few days away with literally no one or nothing to worry about is my definition of mummy heaven, and just quietly, is important for your mental health!

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T-Shirt gifted from Mother Knows Best

REFOCUS ON WHATS IMPORTANT TO YOU

Pre-kids I always used to find holidays a great time to unwind and set some new goals for myself.  Escaping the daily grind would allow me to refocus, remember what was important and decide what was going to be next on the agenda.  Whether its looking for a new job, starting an exercise regime, learning something new or prioritizing more quality family time.  A solo trip will allow you the time to enjoy a clear mind free of any distractions.  And as such, it the perfect time to refocus and allow you to work towards being the best version of you – for yourself and your family.

TIME TO RECONNECT TO YOURSELF

A solo trip will allow you some time to reflect on who you were before you were a mother.  You will no longer be exactly that person as a lot has changed.  But I’m guessing there are still things that you would like to maintain that might have fallen by the wayside.  Perhaps you were really enjoyed adventure activities or absolutely loved fashion.  Go out and rediscover those things and remember why you were passionate about them to begin with.

Shopping on Regent Street, London

REBUILD CONFIDENCE AND INDEPENDENCE

It is very difficult to be independent and carefree when you have a young family relying on you to take care of them. And once you enter the realm of motherhood, it is easy to lose self confidence as you try to rediscover the new you.  Solo travel requires you to be confident and resilient, regardless of who you are.  So take a leap of faith and enjoy a trip on your own.  Join a tour, talk to fellow travellers and start remembering who you are when you aren’t in mum mode.

REMEMBER THE THINGS YOU ENJOY

What did you do on holidays before the kids arrived?  I doubt you spent all your time at zoos and aquariums!  So go and enjoy some of things you love without feeling guilty.  Personally, the ideal day for me would be a spa treatment, followed by a delicious Champagne lunch and a spot of shopping in the afternoon.  I also like to hunt down the hippest coffee shops in town, which is exactly what I did on my recent trip to Krakow, Poland.

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Distill your own gin experience at Spirit of Harrogate

MISS YOUR FAMILY

It really is true what they say …

‘distance makes the heart grow fonder’

Some of us have wished for our families for as long as we can remember.  However, its easy to get wrapped up in the day-to-day monotony of life and suddenly take everything for granted.  A few days away from your family will allow you to miss them and appreciate what you have.  Sometimes a little time apart is all we need to remember just how lucky we are to be someone’s mum.

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Ce La Vie, Singapore

Have I sold the idea to you of taking a trip on your own?  Katie Mac argues in her blog post ‘7 Myths About Solo Travel that need to be Busted ASAP‘, that solo travel is not selfish but rather it is self care.  And that its not just for those whom are single!  I couldn’t agree more with this sentiment, and it is exactly why I think all mothers should take the opportunity to travel solo.  So, if you had the choice to travel solo anywhere in the world right now, where would it be?  Let me know in the comments below and safe travels mamas – Shell x

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25 Responses

  1. It is so important for parents to get away but can be difficult to leave your loved ones behind. I am off to Dublin for a weekend with friends soon but the thought of leaving me little man for the first time is a little scary!
    #KCACOLS

    1. It definitely can be scary leaving them. I think I was ok on my recent trip as I knew my husband had everything under control. But we are heading to the US later in the year and leaving my daughter with my parents – I’m slightly terrified even though I know she is in good hands. We better come home with good presents as otherwise she will never forgive us, ha!

    1. I know what you mean that holidaying with kids can be stressful. I’m looking forward to going on our first holiday when our daughter is old enough to spend a few hours in the kids club 🙂

  2. I’ve done a few f1 Gps in Singapore by myself – a cram in as much art and exhibtions/exploring during the day and the race and concerts at night. it’s the best. And not one person to complain that it’s too hot or we’re walking to far…#KCACOLS

    1. That sounds like an absolute dream! I love the F1, and Singapore! We got married at Marina Bay Sands 🙂

    1. My daughter wouldn’t let me out of her sight for weeks. But given the lockdown that has now been imposed on all of us, she has totally forgotten about it, ha!

  3. I am lucky I can go away on my own. I have done this for the past years with my mum and sister and my daughter went to her dads for the week. I definitely agree it is good for parents if they can do this, although not everyone wants to (I am the owner of a teenager and I am pretty sure it is mandatory, if not it needs to be 😉 ) #kcacols

    1. Everyone needs some peace and quiet from time to time 🙂 I am often dying to get home and tell my family all about my adventures!

  4. I absolutely loved visiting Krakow and would definitely love to visit it again. It’s definitely great to remember the things you enjoyed in life before children. #KCACOLS

    1. I completely agree. Eventually the kids will be a lot less dependent on us and I think it is important as mothers that we still have our own sense of identity 🙂

  5. I completely take my hat off to all those lovely parents that do make time for themselves and get away on a solo break. But… just for me personally, I couldn’t think of anything worse! LOL. I know it works for so many parents and we all definitely deserve that me-time break, but having my little one with me really makes the holiday. I can’t really describe it, but being without the whole Button family for a holiday wouldn’t be my idea of fun at all. Thank you so much for joining us for the #DreamTeamlinky this week, it’s a great view point. xx

    1. I understand what you mean about your family making it a holiday. I don’t think I would want to go away for a long time on my own. And I don’t think I would want to go to a destination that we all really wanted to visit. But a couple of days on my own to do the things I enjoy was really lovely.

  6. This sounds like a dream! I would definitely do it if I could, but it’s probably not likely to happen. I used to travel alone quite a lot when I was younger and it would be great to do it again. Maybe with a little more luxury this time. #kcacols

    1. Hopefully the stars will align one day and afford you a night or two away on your own, in a little luxury of course!

  7. I couldn’t agree more. I went away for my sister’s 40th last year and it was the absolute making of me. I had really lost my confidence and it made me realise I was still the woman I used to be! #DreamTeamLinky

    1. Awwww I love hearing this so much. It is so easy to lose who a sense of who we are once we enter motherhood.

  8. Some very inspiring and valid points here! Being a mom changes things so dramatically, so a step back to take a deep breath and reflect is very significant. Thanks for sharing!

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